Buddhists understand that you can hardly help another before you help yourself. But this isn’t referring to you gaining power or riches before you can help others or living in a way that you ignore others.
This is mostly referring to the fact that because we’re all interconnected, by you helping yourself you create an exponentially positive effect on the rest of the world.
If you want to make an impact on the world, don’t falsely convince yourself that it’s “you or them”. You don’t need to drag yourself through the mud to help those around you. If you do this, you’ll greatly hamper your ability to create a positive impact.
At the deepest level of understanding, by making it about you this also makes it about them because you know there’s no separating “you” and “them”.
Take care of yourself and seek to be more than just a help, but an example of how to live for others to follow and you’ll create waves of exponential possibility that inspires others to do the same.
Peace and Love, Jim