Filler Of Voids. . .
When we aren’t able to give ourselves self-love, it creates a vacuum inside our soul. A vast emptiness that dampens your mood and siphons your energy.
We try to fill this emptiness with distractions – entertainment, thrill-seeking, food, alcohol, drugs, anything within arm’s reach that can numb the pain. Actually, forget what’s in arm’s reach – we will climb mountains, build sprawling skyscrapers, and conquer countries to escape the feeling.
We also try to fill this emptiness with external validation. “If I can’t love myself, maybe I can convince someone else to love a curated version of me that I present to them.”
There are several problems with this approach.
You can’t control how anyone feels about you. That is something only they can experience and choose. Your behavior becomes centered on maintaining a persona, anticipating and fulfilling someone else’s needs. It’s an inauthentic life, an impossible task, and a road to misery.
No one will ever know you exactly as who you are. Every little molecule of you, every dark little thought, every silent triumph, every tiny tragedy. Only you can see that. Therefore, YOU are the only one who can witness and love yourself in absolute completeness.
The answer?
Stop putting so much weight on everyone else’s opinions. It may be useful information to help guide your behavior, but attaching your self-worth to their unpredictable emotions only leads to harm.
You can’t fit other people’s pyramid-shaped shit into that heart-shaped hole in your soul.
Peace and Love, Jim
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