As someone who had always suffered from low self esteem and a mind clouded with doubt I have collected and compiled many “steps” or items to do that helped me overcome my poor mental training and habits. I thought I share some of the things I gained insight through and I encourage everyone to find a few here that appeal to them and take up practicing them for a week or so. I believe the difference that comes from a subtle shift in perception and attitude can be quite powerful and life changing. It’s not magic or crazy fantasizing, it’s just working with your mind. Have a great weekend and remember you are perfect as you are, the mind just does not want to believe it! 🙂
Take full responsibility for your life. Stop blaming others. See yourself as the cause of what happens to you.
Do things you like to do. Don’t stay in a job you don’t like. Participate in life at the highest level you can.
Stop terrorizing yourself with your thoughts. Be gentle and kind and patient with yourself.
Give yourself the simple pleasures of life abundantly. Wear clothes you feel good in, get a massage etc.
Watch what you say. Avoid self put-downs. Stop being critical of yourself and others.
Take care of your body. Give it exercise and good food.
Be willing to create a life-style that generates and nourishes self-esteem. Associate with others with high esteem.
Acknowledge yourself frequently. Keep a diary of your successes and accomplishments.
Avoid comparing yourself with others. Remember that it’s who we are, not what we do, that’s important.
Give yourself permission to do nothing periodically. periodically. Schedule time by yourself.
Frequently take deep breaths. Discover the benefit and pleasure of breathing fully.
Eat first class frequently. Don’t look at the right side of the menu.
Stop trying to change others. Focus your attention on being the way you want others to be.
Look into a mirror regularly and say “I love you, I really love you”.
Stop feeling guilty and saying “I’m sorry”. See mistakes as valuable lessons and avoid judging yourself.
Consciously generate positive thoughts and feelings of self-love in place of old thoughts of inadequacy.
Be willing to laugh at yourself and at life. Stop taking yourself so seriously.
Accept compliments from others without embarrassment. Don’t invalidate their positive thoughts and feelings about you.
Be kind to your mind. Don’t hate yourself for having negative thoughts. Gently change your thoughts.
Keep your awareness and your thoughts focussed in present time instead of living in the past or future.
Acknowledge others frequently. Tell them what you like and appreciate in them.
Invest money in yourself. Go to seminars, workshops and courses that develop your talents.
Make a list of 10 things you love doing and do them frequently.
Treat yourself as you would treat someone you really loved. Praise yourself.
Peace and Love, Jim