Both. . .
Some of the greatest sources of both joy and sorrow in our lives are our relationships with other people.
One way to make space for joy in your life is to be intentional about fostering healthy and happy relationships. You might feel the push to spend a little more quality one-on-one time with each of your kids, or to schedule weekly date nights with your spouse. Sending letters and making actual phone calls shows long-distance friends or family members that they are loved and appreciated. Reaching out in love to mend a strained relationship can provide healing and joy for both parties. The miracle is that joy multiplies—and everyone you share it with will want to spread it.
We should also recognize when a relationship is toxic or unsafe. Making space for joy might mean distancing yourself from relationships that are abusive, manipulative, dangerous, or which are negative influences. Please don’t ever feel obligated to stay committed to a relationship for the sake of public image or avoiding hurt feelings. Your health and well-being are important, and letting these relationships drain your energy or put you in dangerous situations robs you of the joy life offers. I strongly believe that the power of the understanding can change lives and heal troubled relationships, but the mind can also let you know when it’s time to sever ties.
Consider this – We choose our joys and sorrows long before we experience them.
Peace and Love, Jim