Embrace. . .
What does it mean to embrace your reality? It means that you accept what is. It means you know who you are, where you are and what you want. It means you recognize that the only one who can make you happy is you.
What does it mean to embrace your reality? It means that you accept what is. It means you know who you are, where you are and what you want. It means you recognize that the only one who can make you happy is you. The only one who can change your life is you. That blame and anger only serve to defeat you, not the person you blame and have anger toward.
Acknowledging your reality equates to having self-awareness. It is a big part of happiness because when you lack it, you are fighting against where you actually are in your life. You have to own your situation, because when you don’t, you cannot make effective change. And then you have to embrace it. The difference is important. Acknowledging your reality allows you to understand, embracing gives you the power to change.
Let’s look at a few situations I have experienced and observed in this world that taught me this lesson.
The person whose profile listed his education as “college,” and upon meeting them answered a question about the nature of their degree with “technically, I didn’t finish college.” Why? Why misrepresent? You are who you are and if someone doesn’t like it, it is their problem. You have made it your problem by lying about it.
The woman who is so put upon by being a single mother that she feels entitled. “I am a single mother, so I should have…” Where is her power? Does anyone “deserve?” Or do you deserve what you work for when you take responsibility for your own life?
The person who is so angry that they tell anyone who will listen about the wrongs they feel was done to them. Where is their power? Are they allowing their perception to control their future relationships rather than being determined to make their own happiness?
The men and women who are victims of their own lives. If you believe that everything that happens in your life is “done to you,” you have effectively given your power away. Bad things happen. Often they are not your fault. But no matter whose fault they are, you have power in your reaction and in your determination to change your situation. If you are not happy, you are not choosing to make a change.
At some point many os us will encounter these situations and more and yes, it will make us feel broken. The problem occurs when this brokenness becomes a way of life. When you cling to the anger and frustration as a crutch and as an excuse not to move forward and get out there and redefine your path. We shift these moments by learning to embrace our moments, the good and the bad. This is more empowering thane perceive. You can decide what is next. You are in charge of your reactions to the feelings you experience. Embrace that. Good things will began to happen.
As you all know, I love a good phrase or meme so here it is – If you don’t like where you are, move. You are not a tree.
Peace and Love, Jim