Once upon a time, three blind kids who have never heard of an elephant, were taken near an elephant. The first kid who touched the elephant from the tail commented that elephant is hairy and thin. The second kid who touched the elephant from its legs concluded that elephant is very fat and unmovable thing. The third kid who touched the elephant from the trunk said that elephant is a curvy moving object. Were any of the kids right? Were they wrong? Do you think that any of their limited perceptions provided a right understanding? Have you considered that we often behave just like blind kids, that is, giving instantaneous conclusive comments about things and people instead of learning more about it/them properly? In fact, sometimes we behave worst than this. We associate things with people which are never supposed to be concluded in that way. Sometimes we do character assassinations of people and put their respect on a stake. Isn’t it unfair? So how do we overcome this? Here are some points to be considered:
Be positive. Even if you notice any negative thing about someone. Don’t make conclusions about it. There is a chance your brain is thinking against the reality. Don’t let your brain cook bad curry. Explore the negative observation extensively but avoid immediate conclusions. Be straight and be upfront with your yourself and your thoughts.
Physical appearance is not everything. Don’t judge people by their appearances or first impressions. Appearances and situations can be incredibly deceiving without full context.
Seek ethical richness such as honesty, truthfulness, simplicity, behavior, friendliness, down-to-earth attitude etc.
A fly will always sit on the dirty and rotten part of the tomato. Never do this in your life. Every person has good and bad habits. Look at the positive side of things. If you feel something wrong, talk about it but don’t spread negative info about someone. Hate the bad habit, not the person.
Judging a person does not define who they are… it defines who you are.
Peace and Love, Jim