If you belong to “Explosive Group of Angry People” then you tend to react on the spot when you don’t like things, talks or an event whenever it happens. You don’t hide your feelings and say whatever you feel about it. For example, at a ticket counter when someone breaks the queue, you speak loud about the violation that has happened. On the other side of that coin, you might belong to “Implosive Group of Angry People” when you keep your feelings within you. You feel that you can absorb the situation and you want to keep the situation peaceful.
Well, based on the above descriptions it will not be appropriate to conclude if Explosive Anger is better than Implosive Anger as both have their pros and cons. Yes pros and cons. . .
Explosive Anger Management: Since you don’t keep things held in and instead you speak up, you are not building as much stress within. So you are an open heart personality. The disadvantage is that if you have misjudged the situation and reacted all of a sudden, there is a chance that you will regret your statements and acts. Remember, words once spoken cannot be reverted. Because of your reactive personality, people will prefer not to mingle with you as their respect is on stake while near you. They never know what will happen if you don’t like anything at any point in time.
Implosive Anger Management: The advantage is that you are creating a peaceful environment and avoiding any kind of brawl in your surroundings and consequently people feel comfortable when you are around and they are easy to get along with you. The disadvantage is that by not speaking and reacting to the situations you are building stress inside you and impacting your peace of mind. Also, you are not playing your role in improving the situation and you are not adding any positive impact in your surroundings, society or family.
Overall, both approaches can be adopted at different type of situations. The optimum approach would be to keep yourself cool in all kind of circumstances and attempt to walk the middle ground. Whenever a situation triggers your anger, be logical, analytical and ethical in your response in such a way that you are contributing to improve the situation for yourself and for others as well.
Small acts of kindness generate big ripples of happiness in the society. Walking the middle ground allows us to take in much bigger perspectives and grow in ways that siding with only only approach will never allow. Some people will follow their minds without listening to their hearts, and others will follow their hearts without listening to their minds. This is why reason exists, for there to be balance between the heart and mind. We were not meant to follow the mind and ignore the heart. Instead, we were meant to follow the heart over the mind, but without completely abandoning logic. The middle way is the preferred way, and this path simply means to allow your heart to drive you, but do not forget to balance reason with your conscience.
Peace and Love, Jim