Moving On. . .
We must learn what it means to become unfixed from negative states, and we WILL when we realize that the sense of self we derive from them is worthless. It’s not based on anything real, and it has no permanence because with time all states pass. We value negative states more than we may realize because of the strong sense of self we get from them. This may be very difficult for us to see, but a strong awareness will show us the freeing facts.
We never feel ourselves so strongly as when we are furious or hurt, or depressed. Of course, this self is a created self, a false self. But it feels real, and that’s why we cling to it. The power in the state is that by giving it our life, it feeds back to us a false sense of life and power. And as a result, we miss out on the real-life we could experience if we were not filling ourselves with the false. The next time you feel yourself slipping into a negative state, your new awareness of its dynamics will give you the “power” to unfix yourself from it.
When I first started public speaking for Adobe, I was terrified of talking, sharing and presenting my insights and experiences to others. I was caught up in my nervousness over it, which I perpetuated by thinking about it. I dwelled on it to the point that I almost cancelled my tour and turned away from the opportunity. But I sat quietly and faced some facts – I saw that there was no value in any of this, so I decided to try something new – I believed in myself and why I was hired to do this very task. Someone believed in me so why was I not believing in myself? Sure I had fear, but I also had some thing else – the desire to accept my fears and move forward.
This means just move forward without paying any attention to the state at all. You’re aware that the nervousness is there, trying to take you over, but you don’t do anything with it. You stop feeding it your life energy. As a result, your experience of giving the talk is not at all as traumatic as your imagination had tried to tell you it would be, and you know that with your newfound understanding, you need never be as nervous again.
This new understanding placed into practice works with any negative state, from loneliness to anger or anything else. Don’t stop to argue with it or deny it. Just go past it. You can do this when you understand that the only thing keeping you involved with the state is you. It’s really all very simple, but only if we’re willing to leave ourselves behind. We have to leave behind the false self that sees the state through its eyes and attributes it with power. We have to see that negative states have no business being in our business, and they won’t be if we don’t get fixed upon them.
Peace and Love, Jim