Confidence Comes. . .
From what I can tell, self-belief seems to be a cornerstone of success. Hopes and dreams never get off the ground without it. Ambitions stall. Goals are abandoned…And it’s tempting to give up before you ever truly begin.
The opposite’s true when you have it, of course! Self-belief puts wind in your sails and beneath your wings. It gives you the audacity to shoot for the stars, the resilience to overcome obstacles; the focus required to persevere and ignore the naysayers.
In other words, believing in yourself is powerful.
Unfortunately, self-belief can also be elusive! Everybody wants it, yet many of us struggle to ever obtain it. Are you in a similar boat? Do you want to turn the situation around and welcome newfound self-confidence into your life?
There are a number of things you can do to build your confidence. Some of them are just small changes to your frame of mind; others you’ll have to work on for a bit longer to make them familiar habits.
Look at what you’ve already achieved – It’s easy to lose confidence if you believe you haven’t achieved anything. Make a list of all the things you’re proud of in your life, whether it’s getting a good mark on an exam or learning to surf. Keep the list close by and add to it whenever you do something you’re proud of. When you’re low in confidence, pull out the list and use it to remind yourself of all the awesome stuff you’ve done.
Think of things you’re good at – Everyone has strengths and talents. What are yours? Recognising what you’re good at, and trying to build on those things, will help you to build confidence in your own abilities.
Set some goals – Set some goals and set out the steps you need to take to achieve them. They don’t have to be big goals; they can even be things like baking a cake or planning a night out with friends. Just aim for some small achievements that you can tick off a list to help you gain confidence in your ability to get stuff done.
Talk yourself up – You’re never going to feel confident if you have negative commentary running through your mind telling you that you’re no good. Think about your self-talk and how that might be affecting your self-confidence. Treat yourself like you would your best friend and cheer yourself on.
Get a hobby – Try to find something that you’re really passionate about. It could be photography, sport, knitting or anything else! When you’ve worked out your passion, commit yourself to giving it a go. Chances are, if you’re interested or passionate about a certain activity, you’re more likely to be motivated and you’ll build skills more quickly.
Knowing how to be with ourselves is central to the art of loving. When we can be alone, we can be with others without using them as a means of escape. Therefore confidence is not for one but for all.
Peace and Love, Jim