Growth Phase. . .
We have to admit, we’ve spent a lot of our life subconsciously belittling ourself. Thinking we’re not enough. Trying to be someone else. Someone who fits in. Someone who’s less sensitive. Less needy. Less flawed. Less ourselves.
This often stems from feeling broken, and not wanting to scare people away. We all want to be liked. We all wan to make a good impression. We want to be seen as worthy and loveable. So we could feel healed and whole. And so for the longest time, behind a facade of fake smiles, we each in our own ways have inadvertently betrayed ourself for the purpose of pleasing everyone else.
And for longest time, the heart has ached.
But you’re at a point now where you’re seeing things differently. The heartache just isn’t worth it anymore. Belittling yourself for one more day just doesn’t make any sense. And more than that, you now realize no matter what you do or how you change, some people will never be pleased anyway. You now realize you have to start doing things for the right reasons.
Not because it’s what you think everyone else needs, but because you finally know yourself to be worthy of your own love and care. Not because other people approve of you, but because you are breathing your own air, thinking your own thoughts, and occupying a space no one else ever could.
Yes, you are indeed worthy! Your ideas are worthy. Your feelings are worthy. Your needs are worthy. And without everyone else’s constant validation, you must be who you are and live your own truth. Even if it makes people turn their heads. Even if it means walking alone down the path less traveled for awhile.
Consider it a phase that you must go through and one you must come out of and then plan accordingly. Plan on your success and understanding and efforts. Plan on growing and finally plan on becoming the next ring in your own tree of growth and effort!
Peace and Love, Jim